I call this the divergent thinking paradox.  And it’s a fucking pain in the ass!! 😱

1) You have too many ideas…You have so many different talents, passions and ideas you don’t know where to focus your energy.

2) You get overwhelmed by the paradox of choice

3) Then you get stuck‍

4) Then you procrastinate

5) Your self esteem is directly linked to your productivity. If you’re not being productive you’re beating yourself up

6) Then you lose your confidence in your ability to make any further decisions‍

This is a divergent thinking thought loop

And I’ve seen clients stuck in these loops for

‍• Months

• Years

• Decades

‍I’ve been stuck in and out of them for decades.

This is the sneaky wee bar steward of a paradox that keeps you stick

👉 The reason you’re unproductive is that you’re not making decisions.‍

👉 The reason you’re not making a decision is that you’re scared of making the wrong one‍

👉 The reason you’re scared of making the wrong decision is that you're scared of wasting your time.‍

👉 So now you're stuck.‍

👉 And procrastinating.‍

👉 And WASTING your time!!!

Why are you so terrified of wasting your time?

Because you’re deepest fear is living your entire life without ‘finding’ your true purpose and fulfilling your potential.

So every tiny career decision seems career defining.

The pressure to pick the perfect idea overwhelms and paralyses you — and then you beat yourself for procrastinating + wasting your time!!!

Step 1) Recognise and accept that your stuck in the divergent thinking paradox. It just a thought loop.

You’re trying to think your way out of overthinking 🤪 ‍

Spoiler alert: It doesn’t work!!_‍

And it’s fucking exhausting.

Here are some suggestions to help you get unstuck and get shit done👇

The Divergent Thinking Framework

It's Ikigai for multipotentialites

The are four pillars explained👇

SPIRITUAL:

1) Helping Others

Helping others is the very essence of who we are. We have high levels of empathy and compassion.

2) Connections

We want to build communities and connections with others through our creativity.

We hate small talk and seek deeper conversations.

3) Authenticity‍

We have to be authentic as we hate bullshit.

Authenticity guides everything. It shapes our creative process. It deepens our connections.

I spent decades being inauthentic in order to fit in with the business culture in the music industry.

It rinsed my nervous system

So, yeah, don’t do that!

NEUROCHEMICAL:

1) We’re dopamine deficient.

‍It's like catnip to us.

2) We get dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin from helping others.‍

Neuroscientists call this the happiness trifecta.

3) Getting dopamine from challenges leads to pleasure.‍

Getting dopamine from pleasure ( social media, alcohol, reckless spending) leads to pain.

Reframe our relationship with dopamine and how we source it is life change for multipotentialites aka IDs.

Our brains are part creative and part analytical

CREATIVITY

1) Express ourselves

2) Process our emotions:

This is absolutely critical to self-care. We can process our emotions through our creativity.
If not, we can get the following:
• frustrated
• lose our temper
• get depressed
• overwhelmed

Creating content is my therapy

When I post a video about productivity it’s because I feel unproductive.

When I write an article about perfectionism it’s because I’m struggling with perfectionism.

I call this inside-out creativity.‍

3) Articulate our thoughts‍

Our brains are constantly coming up with ideas and solutions. It can be exhausting.
We need a medium to be able to articulate our thinking.
We need to channel our thinking and ideas or we get stuck trying to think our way out of overthinking

ANALYTICAL

1) Pattern recognition skills:‍

We can spot patterns.

Many of us can spot patterns in other people's behaviour.

When we see patterns, we can see gaps, and then we join the dots from our vast knowledge base to solve problems in unique ways.

2) Problem-solving‍

We use our multidisciplinary thinking to create unique solutions

3) Financial stability

Business is easiest when we're helping others solve their problems in exchange for fair compensation.

When you design your lifestyle to tick those boxes you will be more successful and way less stressed out.

I’ve been working and helping multipotentialites fulfil their potential for 30 years now.

The ultimate goal is to use the framework to be our true creative selves.

We get this at the intersection of our four multipotentialite pillars 👇

Get Clarity and Focus

This is our deepest fear.  Dying without having fulfilled our potential.

We build all this up in our heads and then paralyse ourselves into not making decisions.

We fear making the wrong decision and wasting time.

This is why making career + business decisions is so difficult.

On a conscious or subconscious level we are blocking our decision making out of fear of making the wrong choices and wasting our potential.

With this mindset, every decision becomes HUGE! This creates stress and anxiety.

Procrastination is our emotional management system avoiding stress and anxiety.

So we avoid making decisions and get stuck.

Or we flip flop from one thing we’re good at to the next because of our fear of missing out. Always second guessing our decisions.

We are literally paralysed by our own potential!!!

So how the fuck do we make decisions and get shit done?!

We need to remove the pressure.

You see, fear of failure is yet another fucking paradox.

It’s the fear of the failure that ensures the failure?

Why?

Because it stops us making decisions. It stops us taking risks. We stay in our lane.

It stops us putting ourselves out there. It stops us starting new projects.

And even when we do we don’t fully commit to our projects 👇